Sigh! Hey Woof. It looks like the Mods have merged your other post to this one, and now we can refresh our memory to the whole story. Sorry to say, but it looks like, to me, that this entire saga was mostly self inflicted. The number one rule of thumb for solving any operational problem or fault code issue with a Spyder - or anything else for that matter - is to find and solve the root cause. Unfortunately, you've never done any of that. Everything has been focused on bypasses and work arounds.
This is the first we're hearing about re-arranging the electrical system to move all of your accessories to an "auxiliary relay". What??? We have no idea how that is wired up. And there is some other switch you added in order to remove a mystery voltage that was never investigated. Not to mention, that you have never used Spyder specific manuals, even when prompted to do so, more than once. You've been bouncing around the internet, instead.
Take the above information from the internet that you have in bold, for example. That is a perfect explanation of the solenoid circuit for a "59 Ford. Ballast resistor? Nothing to do with a Spyder. When you turn on the key on a Spyder, the Main Relay energizes and supplies 12v power to the major electrical circuits. Power goes through F8L to the input side of the Pre-Start Relay. The output side goes to your Start Pushbutton. When you push the button, the relay energizes - and audibly clicks - and sends 12v power to the input side of the coil for the solenoid. Not the big, fat, red wire, the little wire. Nothing happens yet. The outlet side of the solenoid coil goes straight to the ECM. There are no other connections to ignition coils, ballast resistors, or anything else. THE ECM DECIDES WHETHER OR NOT TO ALLOW THE SOLENOID TO OPERATE AND SPIN THE STARTER, BASED ON WHETHER OR NOT YOU HAVE MET THE START PERMISSIVES.
So, what are they. Well, you have a SM6. There's a clutch and clutch switch involved - the brake and brake light switch is involved - the Kill Switch is involved - the gearbox in Neutral is involved - the Gear Box Position Sensor is involved - and of course the Safety Card / Mode Switch is involved. No evidence of any of those ever being checked in your posts. And we have no idea why you are burning out solenoids, or why they are not turning off when they should, because you haven't investigated the actual cause. You've just done work rounds, added relays and switches that obviously didn't work. Bottom line, we have no idea why the solenoid is getting voltage with the key off, because we don't know how you've modified the system. If swapping relays doesn't work, then keep looking - don't just add a switch. The internet is not going to help you.
So, one last time. Get the Spyder F3 Repair Manual. Get a friend that knows how to read an electrical drawing. Buy him lunch and an adult beverage of his choice, Rip out all of that extra wiring, relays, switches, accessories, and other junk that you have in there, and return the bike to stock condition. In other words, push the RESET Button. Then find out if you even have a problem. Sorry for the soapbox. I hate it when that happens. Good Luck.